Friendship Rules

Did you know that there were rules to friendships? Apparently I didn't read that chapter in the book about life because I suck! Had I known I would've tried to follow along with the rules a little better, ie kiss your ass. But because I don't kiss anyones ass or allow people to walk all over me.....i failed in the friendship department.

Now onto the rules that I was so stupidly unaware of:

1. Answer any and all text messages, voicemails, phone calls, and emails within 1 hour. Even if you are at a concert, at your child's school play, etc.
   


2. If you don't talk to your friends for more than a week, consider it over!


3. If your friends are nothing but nice to you and your kids, its not because they are your friends and thats how friends act....its because they are doing you a favor.


4. If your friends are insulting you and attacking you, making you cry and feel like shit....they are just telling the truth. And you should continue to allow them to try to break you down.


5. Always be available to hang out with your friends and be at their beck-and-call. Juggling your personal life, love life, and life as a mother is not as important.


6. Be careful of the little things you say because a friend NEVER forgets and will always bring it up in the future to use against you....no matter how many times you've apologized.


7. You must always attend friends functions, birthday parties, or just a night out even if your son has the Swine flu.


8. Just because your "best" friend has slept with your kids father is no reason to hate her. After all, she is their Godmother.


9. Don't try to plead your case and work things out because unless your are groveling at their feet, its a loss cause.


10. Friendships are always one-sided and its usually not your side.

Now make sure that you follow all these rules strictly or your friends will break up with you. And you can be sure that they will now delete you from all social media sites no matter how long you've been friends.

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American Idol Upset

All I have to say is....what the hell were you thinking America??!! Kris Allen? This is the first time in the shows history that I didn't agree at ALL with who won. Now, clearly I am an Adam Lambert fan, what's not to like. Sure maybe the screaming is a little over the top but you can't deny the fact that the guy is a brilliant entertainer. Every time I watch him perform I am intrigued. He sings with such emotion that even I can feel it. I'm just throwing this out there...I want to see him in concert. Just him.

And I'm sorry but Kris Allen annoys the crap out of me. His stupid faces he makes when he sings and his pathetic attempt at a moustache so he doesn't still look 16. Isn't working for me. He's forgettable. I was pissed off enough that he had made it to the finals, a place where I personally don't think he belonged. But then to win??!! He's going to go down as one of the Idols who never did anything ie..Taylor Hicks, Fantasia Barrino, etc. whatever happened to those winners? They didn't do much, that's for sure.

Now had Adam lost to Allyson or Danny Gokey, I would have been ok with that. Why? Because they were good. I'm not saying Kris can't sing...its pretty apparent that he can. I just don't think he was better than Adam or Allyson or even Danny. So here's my prediction, Adam is most definitely going to go on to bigger and better things (how cool was he singing with Kiss and Queen last night??!!), and Kris will put out maybe one or two singles and that will be all we will hear of him. He'll do future American Idol shows but thats about it.

So what did you think of last nights American Idol results, major upset or very happy?

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Hunter? Is that REALLY his name??

If you can believe it, that was a question i had been asked when Hunter was only 3 by some ditzy flake inquiring young lady. I was completely dumbfounded and when i told her that it was his name, she had that insert-foot-into-mouth look on her face. You know the "How far along are you?" "No i'm not pregnant" look. Even when i named him seven years ago, it wasn't a very common name here in Massachusetts. People would say they either loved it or hated it. Yeah i could do without the peanut gallery. The name is slowly gaining popularity.



But i didn't want a common name. I didn't want him to go to school and be the third one in his class with the same name. So i guess the weird looks and questions is my own fault. However, people don't react the same way they did when he was younger...as weird as that is. And dont get me wrong, there were plenty of people who would say, "wow, thats a great name."



People ask me all the time where i got the name. When i was in high school i was reading Teen Magazine or one of those teeny-bopper mags, and there was an article about a Dallas Cowboy cheerleader and her son Hunter. I thought then that that was such a cool name. Of course, i probably thought it was cool because his mom was a cheerleader. I actually never really thought much about the name after that until i became pregnant at 19. Before i found out what i was having i had picked names for both sexes. Hunter being if it was a boy...much to his fathers displeasure. I wanted a boy so bad that i had actually convinced myself i was having a girl. So when the ultrasound was being done and she told me it was a boy i didn't believe her. But the doctor had come in and confirmed without a doubt...it was a boy. Hunter it was. Now, his father absolutely HATED the name and was deadset against it. But since he had dropped us like a hot potato, the decision became ultimately mine.



Now its becoming increasingly popular in this part of the country. I even work with two guys who both have sons name Hunter. My Hunter is the oldest of the three but we joke about it all the time. So how did you come up with your kids' names??

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Being a Single Mother

This post may cause a little controversy but it's my blog and this is just how I feel.

I am a single mother.

I have been a single mother pretty much since i was pregnant. Hunters father and I were off and on for years...more off...and i always felt like the single mom even when we were together. I'm not going to get into details, just take my word for it.

With that being said, being a single mother does not define who i am.

Its simply part of what i do.

Nothing irks me more than when single mothers try to use it to their advantage and have people feel sorry for them. You will never hear me use it as an excuse for anything. In fact, i barely ever mention it. I hate when i tell people my story and they say, "Oh that must be so hard for you." Yeah, sure it is, but parenting is hard for everyone. I don't sit here and think, "Oh poor me, my life is so hard," and throw myself a pity party. Who has time for that?



I don't find it to be all that difficult...sure it sucks sometimes when you would like to pass the kid off to your hubby but can't. Maybe its just because it's been this way since the beginning and i'm used to it. I actually really enjoy not having to "share" him on weekends and i like being the only decision maker. What mama says, goes!

I give single parents all the credit in the world but i just don't like it when people use it as an excuse. I heard a woman say at the school yard recently, "Oh well, i'm a single mom, and his/her father is hardly ever around. That's why they behave so bad." I just wanted to shake her!

Hello!! I'm in the same boat only my sons father hasn't seen him in 3 years and my son doesn't act like that.

Why doesn't he act like that? Because there is no way in hell i would allow that and then make excuses for it!! Sure some kids have a hard time with divorces or separations however, she wasn't even disciplining him or anything for his un-excusable behavior. So of course he's gonna act like that....you let him.


I guess i just hate when people do things like that because it makes us (single moms) look weak. And we are not! Single parents are exceptionally strong people...we have to be. You learn to pick up the pieces, stay strong, and move on. Trust me, in the end you'll be a better parent for it.

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